Six Types of Couples You’ll Find at High-End Play Parties
One of the most common questions I get from couples preparing for their first high-end play party is about the crowd. Who actually attends these events? What kind of people will be there? And will we find couples we can actually relate to?
The short answer: these events don't attract just one "type." They bring together people from very different backgrounds who share a few things in common — an appreciation for discretion, aesthetics, and experiences that feel a little out of the ordinary.
Over the years, I’ve noticed a few recurring archetypes. You’ll usually find several of these couples at every well-curated event.
Here are six you're likely to meet.
1. The Power Couple
Successful, composed, and usually in very good shape.
These couples work hard, travel often, and treat these weekends as a small escape from their demanding lives. Think tech, finance, entrepreneurs. They’re used to being in control during the week and enjoy stepping into a space where they can let go a little.
At first, they tend to be observant and selective. They take their time, read the room, and don’t rush into anything. But once they settle in, they're often surprisingly warm and engaging.
2. The Creative Couple
Often the most effortlessly stylish people at these events. There's something a little mysterious about them… and you notice them without them trying to be noticed. Think designers, photographers, architects, actors.
These couples often bring a softer, more sensual energy to the evening. Conversations tend to go a bit deeper, and there's usually an emotional or artistic layer to how they experience the night. They take their time, preferring genuine connection before anything else unfolds.
3. The Well-Travelled Couple
These couples are constantly on the move between cities like Paris, London, Milan, Dubai, New York, or elsewhere. They’re approachable, comfortable in almost any setting, and know how to adapt.
They’re often the social connectors of the event. Introducing people, bridging conversations, and sharing stories from gatherings around the world. If you’re new, these are usually the easiest couples to talk to — they tend to make others feel instantly at ease.
4. The "Parents Off Duty" Couple
Very grounded. Very normal — in the best possible way.
They’re in a stable relationship, financially comfortable, and deeply connected. These events are both an escape from busy work and family schedules, and a return to a side of themselves they remember from when they first met.
They sometimes arrive a little tired… and leave glowing. Warm, kind, and genuinely down to earth, they’re often among the most pleasant couples to connect with.
5. The Unconventional Couple
Every event usually has one or two couples whose dynamic doesn't fit the traditional mould.
Maybe there's a visible age gap. Maybe they're not each other's primary partner. Or maybe their arrangement is simply different from what most people expect.
They're usually not many, and they don't define the atmosphere. But they're a reminder that these events attract people at very different stages of life and in all kinds of relationship structures.
6. The Detail-Oriented Couple
Comfortable, established, and often among the most experienced attendees.
They've been to many events and know what they like. They pay attention to how things are organised — the venue, the flow, the details — and appreciate when things are done well.
Conversations with them can be surprisingly practical at first. But once you get past the logistics, you'll often find a thoughtful, interesting couple who genuinely appreciates quality and well-executed experiences.
And there's one more thing: they usually give me the best tips for new event organisers to check out.
Final Thoughts
High-end play parties aren’t about fitting into one mould. What matters more is understanding the shared values that most people at these events tend to have in common: discretion, an appreciation for quality, and a certain emotional awareness.
If you’re ready to experience it yourself…
If this gave you a clearer picture of the kind of crowd these events attract, and you and your partner feel ready to explore further, you’ll find everything you need for next steps in this guide:
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