5 Things My Husband And I Do After Attending High-End Swinger Events
Some call it post-event aftercare, but to me that always sounds a bit too clinical. Still, what you do after the event can be just as important as how you prepare for it.
So imagine this: you’ve just spent the evening surrounded by elegant, open-minded people in a beautiful setting. You’ve shared looks, touches, maybe more. You’re feeling connected, turned on, maybe a little overwhelmed. What now?
Here are five things we always do after each event:
1. Saving the last dance
Whenever we return to our hotel room, we simply can’t keep our hands off each other. And we always save our “last dance” for each other. Sometimes it’s one more round… sometimes a few more.
These events can really drive up your sex drive and turn you on in a way that’s hard to describe. It’s not just arousal… it’s a mix of excitement, emotional intimacy and deep appreciation for the kind of relationship we’ve built. There’s something incredibly bonding about ending the night just the two of us.
2. Enjoying the high
That elevated state doesn’t disappear the next day. Sometimes it lasts for days, or even weeks. My husband calls it “the glow” and I really do feel somehow lighter, softer, more radiant.
And it’s not just physical. It’s emotional too. That glow amplifies our desire for each other long after the event is over.
3. Protecting the high
Of course, real life kicks in eventually… especially with kids, work, and everyday routines. But when we can, we make an effort to protect that feeling for a little longer.
Sometimes that means more kisses in the kitchen. Or a spontaneous quickie. Or just holding eye contact a little longer, knowing exactly what the other is thinking about.
Many times we plan these special evenings at home right after the event. We turn our bedroom into that dark playroom by putting on our favourite playlist, lighting lots of candles, warming up some body oil and spending the night reconnecting… emotionally and physically. We talk, we fantasise, we take our time. These nights help us extend that elevated energy and deepen the connection even further.
4. Reflecting together
We talk. And we talk a lot. Starting the same night when we’re back at our hotel room and it continues for days, sometimes weeks.
Even if we spent 99% of the night together, it’s always fascinating to hear how your partner experienced it. We talk about what excited us. What felt different. What surprised us. And also about anything that didn’t feel good.
Even if something uncomfortable happened, the main thing is that we’re able to have open and honest discussions… and always move on as one.
5. Planning what’s next
We don’t plan these events too far ahead, but usually after each one we already start thinking about the next.
We talk about what kind of experience we want next and the destinations we would like to travel to. With all the logistics of family and work, it’s not always easy… but I see these events as a gift we give to our relationship. And having one on the horizon definitely keeps that spark alive.
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